Divorce better with Alana. Your Emotional and Strategic Partner.

High Conflict Divorce and Child Custody Consultant

 

Where Healing Begins…

When divorce happens, it can be emotionally traumatic, but divorcing a high conflict individual presents issues that most legal professionals have difficulty navigating for their clients. The high conflict individual’s weapon of choice is verbal abuse, gaslighting, and intentional infliction of emotional pain. It is a systematic dismantling of another person’s relationships, professional reputation, emotional and physical health, and very soul. Divorce counseling helps clients regain control and prevent the divorce process from stalling out.

I provide my clients and their legal team expert advice when navigating contested divorces, child custody battles, and co-parenting with high-conflict personalities (HCPs). Through my personal experience, consults with clients, their legal teams, and my speaking engagements, I bring a unique blend of expertise to my clients. My goal is to help clients find peace of mind, safety, and empowerment to live their best life.

Alana Krotzer, CDC certified divorce and child custody consultant in Raleigh, NC

Alana Sharps, Certified High Conflict Divorce and Child Custody Consultant, Best Selling Author and Speaker

 

Hi, I am Alana

I am a Certified High Conflict Divorce and Child Custody Consultant, Best Selling Author, and Speaker. I am also the victim of my own high conflict child custody battle. I believe my purpose is to give others the help that I once needed and had no where to turn.

I wrote my best selling book, Was It My Fault, A Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Story, as a way to connect with victims and give them hope during their high conflict legal battles as they navigate a new life, post separation abuse, and often the difficulty of co-parenting with a disordered partner.

I work with law firms, public health officials, and individuals providing guidance and support to traumatized victims of emotional abuse as well as best practice processes that professionals can use to better serve their clients.

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  • Divorce Consulting Services -Individuals

    Preparing for a divorce? In the middle of a messy divorce? Representing yourself? Or, reeling with the after-effects of a divorce that’s been finalized with complex child custody arrangements? I am here to help YOU! Let’s build a relationship and work through each stage in detail - strategically, emotionally, logistically, and administratively.

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  • Divorce Consulting Services-Law Firms

    I partner with law firms on a consultant basis, as a trauma informed partner, to provide support to clients who are survivors of abuse. It can be a scary and difficult time for a survivor who may have a difficult time communicating their story and needs.

    I have found that by simply making the client aware of my services, which can be billed as part of their legal fees, many attorneys find it easier to focus on the case at hand while allowing me to provide the emotional and strategic support needed to assist the client with the best outcomes for their case.

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  • Speaking Engagements

    I am available to speak in person and/or virtually on a number of subjects related to relationship abuse, emotional abuse, navigating a high conflict divorce, and my book, Was It My Fault.

    Previous speaking engagements have included audiences from teens to legal groups looking for ways to support their clients.

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Testimonials

Testimonials

“Alana is worth her weight in gold. If you are in a high-conflict divorce with a narcissistic individual - RUN to Alana. You want to present in a most pristine manner in family court. Forget the truth sometimes, unfortunately - presentation matters and rules supreme here! I wish I had met and gotten connected to Alana from the beginning especially when things were so raw and emotional. I would send emotional emails to attorneys begging for people to see what was truly going on and this was only weaponized against me. Alana is fast in her responses and her ability to see the situation through the eyes of what it will appear to professionals. This makes a difference in the outcome. If you have a narcissistic ex you want to be very careful to give them not a thing to use against you. What seems benign is not in this arena. I’m so thankful to have worked with her. My only wish is it had been sooner. Don’t wait to reach out for her assistance to guide you through! “

-Jennie

“There is no way to explain all of the ways Alana has helped me. An hour session is packed with information and I always leave the appointment feeling hopeful. Most importantly, even when I feel like I am at my lowest point, Alana has given me strategies or tools to empower me. She reminds me that I am not alone and that there is always something I can do to advocate for myself and children. I truly do not know where I would be without her.”

-Lauren

“My attorney really liked your idea about how to handle my ex-husband’s requests. She wants to pass your info along to her clients. She was like, “wow, everyone needs a divorce coach!”

-Kelly

“Alana really understands the legal system and has helped me organize and strategize a plan for mediation. She has also educated me a great deal about family law. You will be in good hands if you let her help you navigate this turbulent time of your life. I highly recommend her for anyone going through a high-conflict divorce.”

-Anonymous

“Alana helped me to get organized and to bring order where I did not see it. I feel a lot better about the quality of the documentation I have and I now know how important it is to stay on track and focused about it.”

-V.T.

“I was feeling very overwhelmed by what I considered a lot of information, she not only helped me to understand which information is helpful and how to identify it, but she also knew how to categorize every incident.”

-Veronica

“Alana has gone above and beyond to give me information and specific actions to take that will ensure the best outcome for my case. She's able to fill the many roles of confidant, empathizer, cheerleader, and savy advisor that are needed to move through a very hard season of life.”

-B.H.

“Alana has been knowledgeable, supportive, empathetic, available, and persistent in her efforts to assist me and my children move forward to re-create a better life for ourselves. Thank you!”

-M.E.

“Alana is very smart, competent and encouraging. She has come along side me during my difficult divorce to a covert narcissist. I am in a much stronger position to battle for primary custody of my children, due to her encouragement to seek out different counsel.”

-Anonymous

“I'm really glad I made the decision to work with Alana. She provided experienced, unbiased insight and asked the questions my attorney never thought to ask. No one should navigate the difficult territory of high conflict divorce alone.”

-Bryan

Bestseller:

Was it My Fault?

"A frank, informative work with illuminating behavioral commentary."

- Kirkus Review

Was It My Fault? is my story. In it, I share intimate details of my toxic marriage, but more than that, I share my journey out of the depths of despair and how I continue to fight for myself and my children post-separation. It’s my hope that my story will inspire someone who may be in a toxic relationship and feeling like they have no fight left in them to not give up and find a path forward.

“Alana gives insight into the true characteristics of a narcissist, a look into their playbook, what happens to their victims and how they can take back their personal power and survive. If you are currently dealing with or have ever dealt with a narcissist, know someone who is or just want to arm yourself with knowledge in the case you ever do, I highly recommend you read her book. It offers resources, guidance and most importantly hope that you too can survive.”

— George-Ann

 

“Hey! I read your book from Columbus through Atlanta to home literally without putting down my phone! You will save lives by sharing your story. Thank you for sharing and I pray that God continues to bless you and your family beyond measure!!”

— A. Graham

“I read your story. It was written so well and I know a rough story to relive.”

— Anonymous

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